Just as the borderline perceives
acceptance as conditional, so rejection can also be seen this way. If I were only attractive enough, smart
enough, rich or demanding enough I would get what I want.
Adjusting
to a world that is continually inconsistent and untrustworthy is a major
problem for us. Our universe lacks pattern and
predictability. Friends, jobs and skills cannot be relied
upon. I have to test and retest
all of these aspects of my life; I am in constant fear that a trusted person or
situation will change into the total opposite absolute betrayal. Experience has taught me this is always a
likely outcome. A hero becomes the enemy; a perfect job becomes the bane of
existence. Our need for reassurance is
insatiable. We fear that support will be
withdrawn the moment we cease to please.
an accurate descript of earth life anxieties, Joy: the randomness of inconsistencies all around, then multiplied & doubled again within the human cube. Physicists have identified the cause: quantum tunneling, an effect which randomly shifts tiny bits of the present world ahead into the next millisecond of time-future. "Chance", the meaning of the Hebrew name & tribe of Gad.
ReplyDeleteIn fog of unpredictablity, fear is the true villain and betrayer. 365 times, men & women have been reminded in messages from God (Scripture) to be fearing no man, no circumstance. Once fear is put down like a rabid varmint, uncertainty then holding no option but to be adding to our joy.
Joy Richardson sent me here.
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