Friday, October 21, 2016

Everything is Conditional




Just as the borderline perceives acceptance as conditional, so rejection can also be seen this way.  If I were only attractive enough, smart enough, rich or demanding enough I would get what I want. 

Adjusting to a world that is continually inconsistent and untrustworthy is a major problem for us.  Our universe lacks pattern and predictability.  Friends, jobs and skills cannot be relied upon.  I have to test and retest all of these aspects of my life; I am in constant fear that a trusted person or situation will change into the total opposite absolute betrayal.  Experience has taught me this is always a likely outcome.  A hero becomes the enemy; a perfect job becomes the bane of existence.  Our need for reassurance is insatiable.  We fear that support will be withdrawn the moment we cease to please.

2 comments:

  1. an accurate descript of earth life anxieties, Joy: the randomness of inconsistencies all around, then multiplied & doubled again within the human cube. Physicists have identified the cause: quantum tunneling, an effect which randomly shifts tiny bits of the present world ahead into the next millisecond of time-future. "Chance", the meaning of the Hebrew name & tribe of Gad.

    In fog of unpredictablity, fear is the true villain and betrayer. 365 times, men & women have been reminded in messages from God (Scripture) to be fearing no man, no circumstance. Once fear is put down like a rabid varmint, uncertainty then holding no option but to be adding to our joy.

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